Telling The New Partner, It’s up to you whether you want to tell your new partner or not, about the abusive relationship in your past.
Sometimes, it’s okay to never say anything at all, or even if all you ever say is that your last relationship was difficult and did not end well. Or, once you feel ready and capable of opening up to your new partner, you can tell the whole story. Sometimes it’s easier to share an old pain with a new love, when you trust that they won’t judge you, or feel different about you because of your past. A good partner will not be judgemental, and will understand; if not, then it’s possible that this individual may not be the best mate for you right now.
Helping Others
Your experiences with domestic violence were painful, but is has brought you wisdom that can help you, to help others. You can volunteer at refuges and become a social counselor to help ease other women into the transitional period of leaving their abusive spouse or partner. It helps sometimes, to know that someone else made it out; for men and women, escaping from abusive relationships can seem impossible. But meeting someone else who were able to make that big, and frightening decision their own and then starting over, beginning their lives anew. Whether you volunteer through a helpline, a refuge, or just in your local community, you can make someone else’s life out there safer, and create an attainable freedom for the individual and their children.